When I read the Code Red magazine, I learned that infatuation and love are different. Teenagers, including me, often mistake infatuation for love. According to the article, infatuation is focused on one person.
That article caught my attention. The author gave an advice to a guy who was obsessed from afar, and was enamored by a woman’s physical attributes (or merely her observable characteristics). The situation of that guy was almost the same as mine before.
Before considering her as my crush, I tried to be one of her friends on facebook, and ended up deteriorated and jealous she posted pictures with a certain guy. That crush of mine, was a dean’s list awardee and at the same time, a beauty queen, so there are plenty of guys who “flirts” her.
I made a love and dramatic story in her honor, hoping that she will mention me by my name, but she never did. The truth is, I’m just a voice among the people who wants her attention because of her popularity.
However, I didn’t lose hope. I asked her address from a reliable source. I even wrote her a love letter and about a month after, she replied through text. I was very happy at that moment, because finally she noticed me and truly appreciated my letter.
Two weeks later, the intense feeling of thinking that I am in love with her began to fade, everything changed in a snap of a finger. I just realized that all of those were just fruits of “infatuation.”
The article stated that true love complements the totality of the person, not just what is observed. The intensity of the feeling is due to the thought of being in love, and the jealousy is due to wanting of something unattainable. The bottom line– never let your emotion conquer yourself, be wise enough to control your emotion.
“Dili jud angay magpalabi sa gibati kay ikaw gihapon ang masakitan sa katapusan.”
Before courting a lady, make sure that your feeling is pristine love and not an intense feeling of infatuation.